Being married to a narcissist is challenging, but divorcing one can be even more complicated. Individuals who are facing this situation need to ensure they prepare for the divorce process because the narcissistic individual isn’t going to make anything easy.
There are several things you can do to help yourself throughout this process. One of the more important things is to remember that your negative reactions to their antics can make the narcissist feel empowered. Because of this, it’s usually best to stay calm if you’re around that individual. These other tips may also be beneficial:
Prepare for the war, not the battle
The divorce likely won’t be over quickly when you’re leaving a narcissist. Most narcissistic people will try to drag the divorce out because it makes them feel as though they’re in control of the situation. They will even drag out a case just to make it more expensive if they think that’s distressing to you in any way.
In short, it’s a good time to do a lot of soul-searching. You want to decide early on exactly what you hope to get most out of your divorce and what’s not worth the battle.
Keep proof of everything
Narcissistic individuals are known for twisting the truth. Because of this, you should ensure that you always keep proof of things. This can include saving texts and other communication, hanging on to receipts and anything else that might come up in the divorce. Your attorney can help you to learn what you should keep so that you have it when you need it.
You should keep your attorney abreast of what’s going on with all matters surrounding the end of your marriage. Be sure to alert them to the fact that you believe (or know) that your ex is a narcissist. This can help your attorney develop a strategy that will minimize the problems you could otherwise encounter.