San Antonio Legal Blog

Are my current life circumstances going to lead to divorce?

On behalf of The Law Offices of Jon R. Disrud on Monday, June 1, 2020.

When couples go through intensely stressful times, they may easily be triggered by small things that their partner does. If you are currently going through a stressful period in your life because of circumstances beyond your control, you may have noticed that this has taken a toll on your marriage. You may have found that you have started to have arguments for no reason, or that you have become unnecessarily toxic in your communication toward each other.

Even the strongest relationships go through ups and downs. You should never expect married life to always be like the honeymoon period. The couples who enjoy decades in a happy marriage are simply able to work through the hard times through maturity and good communication. If you are worried that your current life circumstances are going to lead you to filing for a divorce, you should be aware of this and understand the most common triggers. The following are some life events that most commonly lead to divorce.

How will your child's special needs impact custody in a divorce?

On behalf of The Law Offices of Jon R. Disrud on Thursday, April 30, 2020.

Contested custody situations are never easy, but when your family has a child with special needs, your family's requirements may become far more intensive and specific. Managing a divorce and attempting to protect yourself while also trying to keep life as stable as possible for a child with special needs can require significant effort and planning.

Although you and your ex may not see eye-to-eye on many issues, hopefully, you can agree that minimizing disruptions for your child will be the best approach as you head through a divorce. There will be special circumstances that your family needs to address that other families may not have to consider during a divorce.

In the military? Set up your estate plan before you deploy

On behalf of The Law Offices of Jon R. Disrud on Thursday, April 2, 2020.

Many people believe that estate planning is only for the elderly. As you get ready for deployment, you know that isn't the case. Though you are older and have a family, you haven't yet put together an estate plan. As you look to the future, you've realized that having one is essential, especially if you find yourself in danger while in the military.

You want to know that your family will be taken care of and that your estate is prepared. The last thing you want is for your grieving family to have to go through a tedious probate process or not know your wishes.

Review your prenuptial agreement for errors before divorce

On behalf of The Law Offices of Jon R. Disrud on Monday, March 2, 2020.

When a couple who has a prenuptial agreement chooses to divorce, they may have a simpler, less contentious experience than couples without a prenuptial agreement. Unfortunately, a prenuptial agreement that contains technical errors or legal weaknesses can prolong a divorce, especially if one spouse or the other decides to challenge the agreement.

If you have a prenuptial agreement and believe that divorce is in your future, now is the time to review the agreement. Ideally, an agreement created with careful attention to detail will keep your rights and priorities protected throughout the divorce process. However, you may find errors or weaknesses in your agreement as you review it, giving you key insights as you build your divorce strategy.

The role of adultery allegations in a Texas military divorce

On behalf of The Law Offices of Jon R. Disrud on Tuesday, January 28, 2020.

In the average Texas divorce, the courts don't pay much attention to allegations of infidelity unless the couple has a prenuptial or postnuptial agreement with clauses that address that specific issue. Marital misconduct should not factor into how the courts divide your assets or how they allocate parenting time.

However, for military service members, adultery is a violation of the Uniform Code of Military Justice (UCMJ). That means that allegations of adultery that surface during your military divorce proceedings could result in a court-martial or similar disciplinary measures that could have a long-term impact on your career trajectory and on the divorce proceedings as well.

Update your estate plan after these major life events

On behalf of The Law Offices of Jon R. Disrud on Friday, January 3, 2020.

When you build an estate plan, it isn't a one-time event. The initial set up helps you get your thoughts in order, but your estate plan may be an ever-growing and changing document.

There are a few times when it's appropriate to update your estate planning documents if you wish to make changes. Here are three of the common times when people may choose to update their estate planning documents (and when you might want to update your own).

Possible outcomes for the marital home in divorce

On behalf of The Law Offices of Jon R. Disrud on Wednesday, December 4, 2019.

For some people who are going through a divorce, the status of the house is the biggest financial decision they have to make. There are a few ways to handle this, so carefully evaluate each option before you decide on what you'd like to do.

If you are going through mediation or another collaborative divorce method, remember that your choice might not align with your ex's. In this case, you'd have to negotiate to come up with terms that are mutually agreeable.

How divorced parents can prevent winter holiday disputes

On behalf of The Law Offices of Jon R. Disrud on Friday, November 1, 2019.

The winter holiday season is a time to celebrate with family, friends and other loved ones. But if you're divorced, it's also a time to create a co-parenting and visitation schedule that works for you, your ex and your children.

There is no surefire way to prevent winter holiday disputes with your ex, but there are some basic tips you can follow to hedge off trouble before it bogs you down during what's supposed to be the best time of the year.

How divorced parents can help school-aged children

On behalf of The Law Offices of Jon R. Disrud on Wednesday, October 2, 2019.

You and your spouse decided to get divorced after a decade of marriage and two children. The oldest is in fourth grade. The youngest is in first grade. They both go to school full time now, and their education is very important to you.

Is the divorce going to have an impact on that education? It can. You and your ex need to take the time to think about what you can do to help your school-aged children. If you have the right focus, they can thrive in their post-divorce life. But it will take work on your part. Here are a few things you can do.

Defend yourself when facing court-martial as a military member

On behalf of The Law Offices of Jon R. Disrud on Wednesday, September 4, 2019.

When you join a branch of the United States military, you agree to abide by not just federal, state and local laws, but also by the unique laws that govern the military. Military law in many ways is far stricter than civilian law.

For example, military members can still face court-martial and punishments if they conduct an extramarital affair while serving as an active duty member of the military. Although civilians can divorce, military members have to worry about career consequences, while also dealing with a comparatively high marriage failure rate because of the demands from their jobs.